Confessions of a Deluded Mind
A cry for attention is a cry for help. To be pathetic, a loser or dysfucntional is common. To be so and to aspire to be normal or great is also common. But many aspire to be loonies. Pretend to be dark, mysterious, demented, psycho. Sadly, they are not so...maybe a little deluded but certainly not demented. Its just the aura of mystery the attraction of darkness that makes them pretend. It is indeed a cry for help. Manifesting itself in the form of attention grabbing.
Now the trick here is doing something that comes as second nature to us. Heres our chance to act like our parents and elders and basically go nuts with the wiseguy/smart alec routine. We get to deny them what they want (oh, boy). Giving them attention is to reinforce their delusions. What they need is not our attention, but our help. Helping such a person is not easy. Telling him he needs help would be to tell him that you see right through him. As ive occasion to mention before, telling a person that is like the worst possible thing you could do. Its like going up to Houdini in the middle of his greatest trick and saying,"hey mister, i know how you do that trick."
And to a person obssessed with mysteries and the dark psyche, such a thing would be doubly or tenfold worse because the one fact that he treasures, the one fact that he holds paramount is that no one understands him/her. That is his misery and he revels in it. It is his gift and his curse - it makes him the Spiderman of his world.
Now im no Freud (though i have a friend who is) - hell im worse than small fries (French Freud, if u will) compared to him, so far be it from me to suggest any treatment. But i think a fun way to experiment (now now, we are not toying with the poor soul, merely experimenting)
would be to adapt a dark persona urself. Overdo it, make it over the top and let him see how ridiculous it looks. He will end up ridiculing you for your pretentiousness (what you thought only people who force themselves to watch Water, Namesake, Capote, The Queen and not enjoy it are pretentious?). Then patiently ease in and make him see that you are only mirroring
him.
A cry for attention is a cry for help. To be pathetic, a loser or dysfucntional is common. To be so and to aspire to be normal or great is also common. But many aspire to be loonies. Pretend to be dark, mysterious, demented, psycho. Sadly, they are not so...maybe a little deluded but certainly not demented. Its just the aura of mystery the attraction of darkness that makes them pretend. It is indeed a cry for help. Manifesting itself in the form of attention grabbing.
Now the trick here is doing something that comes as second nature to us. Heres our chance to act like our parents and elders and basically go nuts with the wiseguy/smart alec routine. We get to deny them what they want (oh, boy). Giving them attention is to reinforce their delusions. What they need is not our attention, but our help. Helping such a person is not easy. Telling him he needs help would be to tell him that you see right through him. As ive occasion to mention before, telling a person that is like the worst possible thing you could do. Its like going up to Houdini in the middle of his greatest trick and saying,"hey mister, i know how you do that trick."
And to a person obssessed with mysteries and the dark psyche, such a thing would be doubly or tenfold worse because the one fact that he treasures, the one fact that he holds paramount is that no one understands him/her. That is his misery and he revels in it. It is his gift and his curse - it makes him the Spiderman of his world.
Now im no Freud (though i have a friend who is) - hell im worse than small fries (French Freud, if u will) compared to him, so far be it from me to suggest any treatment. But i think a fun way to experiment (now now, we are not toying with the poor soul, merely experimenting)
would be to adapt a dark persona urself. Overdo it, make it over the top and let him see how ridiculous it looks. He will end up ridiculing you for your pretentiousness (what you thought only people who force themselves to watch Water, Namesake, Capote, The Queen and not enjoy it are pretentious?). Then patiently ease in and make him see that you are only mirroring
him.
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