Relatively Speaking

What makes for a great chemistry? What makes different people gel? Well, firstly that depends greatly on the nature of the relationship. Confusion about nature, intent mobile humor psyche. A few laughs are good and essential but they dont hold. Humor brings people closer quicker than any other factor but it has very poor sustaining power.

The kind of relation you have is proportional directly or inversely (hey this aint math its psychology) to your intentions.It depends on the sex and sexuality of the two individuals. Both the individuals have an intent as to what the relationship is exactly supposed to be. A successful relationship depends on the two intents being the same. Confusion regarding your intetions invariably leads to squinty eyed distortion. Each foot with a mind of its own can only lead to a drunken gait.
Various compatibility factors play a role. Common amenities, qualities....things basically, material or ethereal matter. Tastes and attitude matter. Tastes interestingly, dont have to match. For people who love to argue and debate, having opposite tastes is enough to spark conversations and be the start of a friendship. How long such a relationship lasts varies on the temperament and the ability of each person to take things in a lighter vein.

Which brings us to temperament. Temperamental people especially those who have less temper and are more mental find it hard to adjust or be compatible. Funny thing though...everyone except a tempermental person realises the fact that he is infact...touchy. Maybe at some level he refuses to acknowledge it. Misunderstandings are like a gasoline tank to a spark for a temperamental person. And the favorite haunting ground for misunderstandings is...yep, the good ol' internet. Font colors, styles and smileys come a poor poor second to voice tone, body language and the presence of a twinkle in the eye. The intended tone and vein of the comment or statement is too often lost in translation.

Sometimes things as trivial as having an ipod or sharing the same mobile network can bring people close. Friendship is less strenuous to maintain so lasts longer than most relationships. Expectations should be clear. And no matter what one must not get overly casual. There is such a thing as too much sharing. Humor provides a strong bond as i have occassion to mention earlier. No other factor can bring two people close faster than a shared sense of humor. But it is frivolous and superficial. It has very low sustaining power.

On the other hand, a psychological connection is much deeper and more lasting. More important than guessing whether the other person likes chocolate or is a saggitarius is the fact that you can guage his mood and know exactly how he or she feels.

Platonic relationships can be fun. But only if you can correctly recognise them for what they are. Some people believe they have the ability to be the best of friends with anyone. They think they have the ability to make friends quickly. They are constantly surrounded by people and have more friends than is normal or needed. But these are the people who end up having differences with other very very quickly. They attribute it to several factors. Some inherent problem, the weirdness of this present generation, or the fact that people are jealous of their other friends. But the problem lies with them. They take on more than they can handle and are unable to hold onto any of them. They may get off to a great start but lack sustaining power. Everytime you enter a new atmosphere you make many friends. With the passing of time you end up with a casual relationship with some, indifference with some, have bitter arguments with some and become the best of friends with some. You would have to be more neutral than the whole of Switzerland combined to be able to have a friendly relationship with everyone. And even then youd be on a casually friendly term with everyone and not have many or in some cases any real friends. They end up being alienated and bitched about behind their backs. Which is also true for those who hold casual relationships with everyone unfeelingly impassionately.

Every relationship, whatever it may be needs to have an element of friendship within it to be successful and enduring. The ability to read the others thoughts and make light of dire situations is what makes for a good friend. And when you are dealing with girls....no amount of warnings can suffice...never let your guard down..that is exactly what they want.