Respectfully Yours

Reaching the top means different things to different people....Some people set their own standards and some have a comparative perspective. The latter class dont believe in reaching the top of the ladder. They will be sufficient to stand on the middle rungs as long as everyone else is below them.

These are the type of people who believe that the only way to be considered the topmost, to be respected is to play down others or to insult others. This is an attempt either to convince girls which is common among most of the guys around, or even more pathetic, an attempt to
convince themselves. So we see people shouting and mistreating at underlings or bristling when they feel that they are being "disrespected". They will shout at vendors, or mere attendants when they feel people are not being polite to them or curtseying like they think mere flunkeys
should when talking to Them. To earn respect you must give respect. Respecting a person is indifferent from ones status. It is not the same as bowing down or showing deference. Respect is always mutual. A person respects the people working for him or under him and in turn earns
respect. One does not lessens ones dignity by respecting an inferior. One only arouses respect in others by proper conduct and show of respect, not lessen it.

If you are deluded enough to believe that people have nothing better to do than disrespect you all the time, then the problem is yours. You probably suffer from an insecurity complex. Also people need to respect themselves to get respect. If you dont respect yourself you can hardly
expect others to do the same. At this point i must clarify the difference between respecting oneself and being vain. If you are a high up person, or a person with responsibility, you must appear presentable. There is a way of carrying oneself and maintaining ones dignity in the
presence of others. If you ignore this things, people tend to take a different view of you. I have seen enterpreneurs and very highup persons arriving for work in a casual t shirt and jeans or foregoing shoes for the more comfortable but hardly presentable floaters or sandals. If you
are casual in a formal situation, you cannot people for taking you for granted or treating you casually.