Relatively Speaking

What makes for a great chemistry? What makes different people gel? Well, firstly that depends greatly on the nature of the relationship. Confusion about nature, intent mobile humor psyche. A few laughs are good and essential but they dont hold. Humor brings people closer quicker than any other factor but it has very poor sustaining power.

The kind of relation you have is proportional directly or inversely (hey this aint math its psychology) to your intentions.It depends on the sex and sexuality of the two individuals. Both the individuals have an intent as to what the relationship is exactly supposed to be. A successful relationship depends on the two intents being the same. Confusion regarding your intetions invariably leads to squinty eyed distortion. Each foot with a mind of its own can only lead to a drunken gait.
Various compatibility factors play a role. Common amenities, qualities....things basically, material or ethereal matter. Tastes and attitude matter. Tastes interestingly, dont have to match. For people who love to argue and debate, having opposite tastes is enough to spark conversations and be the start of a friendship. How long such a relationship lasts varies on the temperament and the ability of each person to take things in a lighter vein.

Which brings us to temperament. Temperamental people especially those who have less temper and are more mental find it hard to adjust or be compatible. Funny thing though...everyone except a tempermental person realises the fact that he is infact...touchy. Maybe at some level he refuses to acknowledge it. Misunderstandings are like a gasoline tank to a spark for a temperamental person. And the favorite haunting ground for misunderstandings is...yep, the good ol' internet. Font colors, styles and smileys come a poor poor second to voice tone, body language and the presence of a twinkle in the eye. The intended tone and vein of the comment or statement is too often lost in translation.

Sometimes things as trivial as having an ipod or sharing the same mobile network can bring people close. Friendship is less strenuous to maintain so lasts longer than most relationships. Expectations should be clear. And no matter what one must not get overly casual. There is such a thing as too much sharing. Humor provides a strong bond as i have occassion to mention earlier. No other factor can bring two people close faster than a shared sense of humor. But it is frivolous and superficial. It has very low sustaining power.

On the other hand, a psychological connection is much deeper and more lasting. More important than guessing whether the other person likes chocolate or is a saggitarius is the fact that you can guage his mood and know exactly how he or she feels.

Platonic relationships can be fun. But only if you can correctly recognise them for what they are. Some people believe they have the ability to be the best of friends with anyone. They think they have the ability to make friends quickly. They are constantly surrounded by people and have more friends than is normal or needed. But these are the people who end up having differences with other very very quickly. They attribute it to several factors. Some inherent problem, the weirdness of this present generation, or the fact that people are jealous of their other friends. But the problem lies with them. They take on more than they can handle and are unable to hold onto any of them. They may get off to a great start but lack sustaining power. Everytime you enter a new atmosphere you make many friends. With the passing of time you end up with a casual relationship with some, indifference with some, have bitter arguments with some and become the best of friends with some. You would have to be more neutral than the whole of Switzerland combined to be able to have a friendly relationship with everyone. And even then youd be on a casually friendly term with everyone and not have many or in some cases any real friends. They end up being alienated and bitched about behind their backs. Which is also true for those who hold casual relationships with everyone unfeelingly impassionately.

Every relationship, whatever it may be needs to have an element of friendship within it to be successful and enduring. The ability to read the others thoughts and make light of dire situations is what makes for a good friend. And when you are dealing with girls....no amount of warnings can suffice...never let your guard down..that is exactly what they want.

Seriously Funny!!!

You are in a bad mood...the first thing you loose is ...yep ur sense of humor. How do you show people ur cool, by being bored and losing ur sense of humor. By not laughing at simple jokes. You will still wear wanna be earstuds and put down cool songs cuz now they are oh so popular. But yeah...ur humor..thats out of the window. Maybe thats why cool people and in general most of the people around are so boring and insane. Theyve lost touch with their humor. Humor is the glue that binds your sanity to you. The world is a windy place and your sanity is a flimsy, fragile butterpaper waiting to be whisked away. Frivolity is a light snack that keeps you sated without the omnious shadow of obesity looming over you. Without the light in light humor you are doomed forever to preambulate aimlessly the upper echelons of the dark tower of insanity.

Fine fine ill stop being so spooky and get down to lighter brass (polished brass that is) tacks. See you dont like me when i get all serious. Thats how important humor is. It actually makes a person like me likeable (well ok that was a long shot...but at least tolerable right?). It is something we need to cling on to if we have a hope of surviving in this world. There is humor to be found in every aspect of life. Paradoxically however insane or crazy people with sense of humor may be (and those who know me are emphatically nodding along at this point) it is sometimes the only thing that makes sense. So not seeing the lighter side of things and laughing at silly jokes does not mean you are the strong silent type (cuz face it you dont have the chiselled features of Stallone or his box office success) it just means that you have lost touch with yourself.

Humor can be found in any situation. Instead of moping around on valentines day mourning your single status, enjoy the fact that you have your entire wallet to yourself and laugh at fools buying roses at ten times the price. Insane acts and insanity fuels up humour. It is the main instigator so to speak. And yet humor is the steadfast anchor for your sanity specially in this cataclysmic near apocalyptic world we inhabit. (In case some of you are wondering i have made it a point to include at least a few big words in every blog from now on no matter how badly i spell them or how silly they look.)

If humor is underappreciated among all the states of mind/states of emotions/qualities/mannerisms, then self deprecating humor is the most underestimated among all kinds of humor (again if neone is wondering why i go for the americanised spelling its cuz im lazy and its easier and also the other spelling is not Indian but Brit..so given the choice...well u figure it out). Self deprecating humor helps you estimate urself, you can take things in a more lighter, tolerant vein and it makes it difficult for people to target you. Also humor can be used to decimate barriers, lower inhbitions....a dangerous power in the wrong hands (sounds so cool doesnt it? kinda like Sith lightning from Star Wars). Nothing brings people closer faster than a shared sense of humor...trust me on that one.

Changing Channels - Surfing Life

All the resources we know have a limit. So do the resources of patience, emotions, confidence and other stands also limited? So resources directed in one direction will get depleted in another direction right? Maybe this is why when someone is getting on your nerves, you get crabby and irritated at life in general, cuz ur patience is directed at that one irritating source. So my confidence and trust are directed towards my beliefs and ideals maybe this is why i suffer from lack of self confidence and self belief. Cuz let me tell you for a pessimisstic guy who is a loser and has no faith in myself, i sure do stand by my convictions and have blind implicit faith in my principles and beliefs.

Then comes the problem of confidence. I am confident in my beliefs and principles and in my abilities. I am confident enough to know that i have zero potential, no capabilites whatsoever. People who are down and out are sometimes able to do something about it. And those who are unable to do anything, write or sing about their problems. I happen to fall into that category. The ultimate loser. I have confidence in what i think and believe but i dont have enough confidence in my confidence if you get my drift. But what interests me is is it the same with everyone? Abundance in one department leads to deficiency of the same in another? A similar situation that i will elucidate goes to explain why Nice Guys Finish Last (Green Day were bang on target with this number).

Its a cruel, mean, crazy world out there. Being saintly is the stupidest thing one could do, possibly bravest but certainly the stupidest. (okay, okay, most stupid not stupidest for you language sticklers). But being good is no walk in the park either. Not even a seedy park near a known crack den at one a.m. in the night. Being good, trying hard not to hurt others even though they have it coming, trying not to get angry, get mad takes up most of your energies (yours here meaning the good guys only). So they dont have much time for anything else. So unless they are extraordinarily gifted (Sigmund, Samir take a bow here) its impossible to come up tops in every or infact, anything.

Here an important thing is to give yourself some time alone. Read some books. Not enlightening high brow shit but pulp fiction and thrillers. Watch some silly movies. It lightens you up gets the adrenaline pumping. Laugh out loud, whistle at the absurd characters even shout out profanities. Its always important to let the bad out in private lest it leaks out in public. After all why fart in public when you have a bathroom.

So its like two hands and several balls up in the air while someone is trying to kick you in the balls. We are constantly juggling moods, emotions, thoughts, faiths and transferring them from one object to another or in the case of emotions from one state to another. Now emotions may be juggled like anger to love to hate to sadness to happiness. But even each of these have to be in limited quantity. One can only have so much love to give. One can only have so much anger to focus. What becomes the object of what is dependent on us....a fact that not many of us realise.

Letting off steam helps, chanelling emotions into the proper canal helps, and avoid overexposure of yourself to everyone. Alone time (i reapeat this incessantly not only here but in every goddamn blog all the live long day - i know) is of the utmost essence.

Get The Popcorn Me Hearties Yo Ho! A Pirates of the Caribbean: At World's End Review

The third and again presumably final (whats with the trilogy obssession? Desperado trilogy, Bourne Trilogy, Shrek Trilogy, Star Wars trilogies, LOTR trilogy, Pirates Trilogy, X-men trilogy Godfather Trilogy etc) installment of the High Sea adventures of Captain Jack Sparrow and his cohorts is here. And it doesnt disappoint. But that is mostly because of the lowered expectations courtesy Dead Man's Chest.

You wonder why they whimsically brought Geoffrey Rush back to life and then you thank god they did for he helps while away time in each Deppless frame. And unfortunately there are quite a few. Why Kiera Knightley was given so big a role is a mystery. Why Johnny Depp was given so less (comparitive to the first two movies of course) is also a mystery. Why Knightley and Orlando Bloom have not resorted to taking acting classes is also a mystery. Add in a few more mysteries in the movie itself and you have quite a mysterious finale. But the thrill and Adrenaline run high mainly due to Johnny Depp's performance and Hans Zimmers awesome score.

Well the second and third installments make the storyline of the first movie seem inconsequential and kiddie like. Big world shaping events take place in the later episodes specially the final chapter. But i still like the first movie the best. At World's End does a good job of handling all the characters thrown into the fray and making sense and concluding all the storylines bombarded at us in the second installment.

All in all a good fare and if you watched the first two then this is a definitely dont miss. Kudos to Johnny Depp and Geoffrey Rush for awesome performances. Also commendable is the emphatically enunciating, Irish spouting, tentacled face monster Davy Jones/ Bill Nighly.

So throw logic and sense out of the windows and ready the popcorn me hearties!!!! oh and watch out for a scene after the titles...

Fantastic Bore: Demise of Movie Making or A Fantastic Four: Rise of the Silver Surfer Review


The not so fantastic foursome face off against a trio of baddies. The foursome spend most of the time brokering deals with the baddies and the baddies keep turning on each other. To stop Galactus, they need the Surfer, to catch the Surfer they need Dr, Doom. Oh what a joyous merry go round they lead us. So there isnt much fighting to do nor is there much in the
form of a storyline.

Special effects are ok. Chris Evans is ok. Thats fine by me since Human Torch is the only character i really care about. And he is the only one who gets to do any fighting. Interestingly they stay faithful to all the Fantastic Four quirks and mannerisms. The ambience the gadgets the behavior etc. But still its like a perfect mechanical robot without a soul. Ioan Gruduff does a good job but his character isnt properly developed. Jessica Alba cant act nor can she pull of the blonde hair. Even The Thing/Ben Grimm doesnt get any action (by which i of course mean clobbereing).

The title is inaapropriate. There is no rise. But the silver surfer is there. And such magnificient potential wasted. The character is severely underdeveloped. Dr. Doom is aesthetically faithfull but little else. The climax is disappointing. Fortunately the movie is fast paced which is one of its few strengths.

Corny dialogues possibly lifted from older comics not even the contemporary ones and virtuous monologues at the end make you squirm and cringe in your seat. Clearly this one was made strictly for the kiddies. The end is meaningless which makes most of the movie pointless. And why do they pretend to bump off characters when everyone knows theyre just gonna bring them back. Avoid this one guys.

Fairly Tame/Fairy Tale Ending : A Shrek The Third Review

The monster has now been completely civilised. Hes married, has to visit the in laws, has great buddies to hang out with and in well on his way to a reluctant fatherhood. The final step (hopefully - would be good to go out on a high note) in the saga of our beloved monster tale. Domesticated and housebroken though he may be-eth he'll be damned if he's going to take on the administory (is that even a
word???!!??) position of king of far far away - Far Far Away being not one of those cool barbaric frigid zones waging constant wars but a quiet suburban kingdom much like L.A.

So when the frog-king (throw back your mind to the second movie) croaks his last, Shrek faces the choice of assuming the position himself or bringing in the next in line - Would be king Arthur. So of course, Shrek is off to adventure accompanied by Donkey (yeah!!!) whose sudden fatherhood has done nothing to diminish his silliness or sober him up and Puss in Boots (yeah baby!!!) who when hes not clanging swords with the best or making puppy dog faces (or is that kitten faces??!!?) is chasing Pussy N Booty.

The ladies are content to sit around throwing showers and sipping tea but that would be too boring. So Charming who for some reason was spared at the end of the second movie rallies all the fairy tale villains to his side. Yeah baby - time for the comeuppance of the bad guys. One almost sympathises with their plight. Little bit of lost potential there though because off all the fairytale villains they couldve picked they picked a surprisingly small no. Anyway its left to the lovely and some not so lovely accompanied by Donkey's Dragon to defend the kingdom from Charmings not so charming coup.

MEanwhile Arthur/Artie (bland performance by Justin Timberlake) turns out to be a highschool loser (took me back to old times that did) much drided and in dire need of self confidence or well a crown. Its upto the heroes to convince him to take up his destiny (cmon why stay in highschool when you can be king) and rush back to rescue the kingdom.

To make things interesting Donkey and Puss have an out of body experience and Merlin is thrown in. All in all the gags are funny, the starting few frames will have you in splits. Do not miss the start. Awesome performances by Eddie Murphy and Antonio Banderas. Also commendable is Mike Myers. All in all a fun though short movie with a nice soundtrack.

Of Apocryphal Banalities and Effacive Boundaries




Divisions have brought more unity than any other factor. Religious divides may bring dischord but it brings people of the same religion closer. Same goes for regional divides. If there were no Pakistan how many of us would be patriots? When have you cheered for your country more than in a cricket match. Everyone apparently needs a reminder of his "inherent" loyalties, which they claim are dormant ready to wake up like Kumbhakarn. You need an insult to the flag, or what is percieved as an insult to make you realise that its your national symbol and needs to be respected as such. Flag, the Indian Tricolor probably now inspires more fear than the Nazi
symbol during WWII. The best recourse is to salute it gravely from afar and then get going. Anything more to do with it is dangerous. Everytime you bring out your favourite T-Shirt youll be thinking...am i wearing green trousers...oh God and my undergarments are white, also im wearing a black belt...Good Heavens can this be construed as an insult to the flag??? Watch out next time u suck on an orange candy. Make sure ur not standing next to a guy eating vanilla whose standing next to a guy eating a green lemon ice candy.

Does it work on the same principle as "You dont realise the value of what you have until its lost"? OR is it because a bunch of out of work, down on luck, talentless, coarse, immature, bestial, easily duped, adrenaline junkies have nothing better to do than to cradle hockey sticks while sipping bad tea and watching the television in search of news that they can agitate against. They are certainly broad minded in some respects. From movie stars to art undergrads to AIDS activists - they spare noone. So division brings unity and the secular unity of the nation....that unity divides. A paradox if ever there was one much like life itself. A circle of irony and paradoxes that may give everyone what they want but in the wrong form at the wrong time leaving no one satisfied. Which i guess is as it should be, for if everyone was satisfied life would be stagnant and then there would be Armageddon. Stagnancy is death. change is the only constant in the world.

But to get back to the great divide. The Enemy of my Enemy is my Friend. Not quite an apt saying but Ally is certainly correct. A kinship is formed when two people unite against a third. Think about it. You probably have the most fun when you get together with a friend and badmouth a third party. That third party could be your mutual friend to a teacher at college to Hrithik Roshan to Oprah Winfrey. But it forms a bond. It certainly does. Thats why so much male bonding (Ahem....No gay undertones implied) occurs on sports fields, battlefields and prisons. And unity is the one thing that highlights differences more prominently, sounds dischords the most vociferously, shrilly proclaiming the lack of verisimilitude. Differnt people going about their businesses, living in close proximity, having different habits, pandering to a different lifestyle -- no one pays much attention. But try ushering them under one banner in the indefagtible spirit of unity and you see a convoluted vortex like rainbow of discrepancies creep in. This point was elucidated to an extent in what has become a modern cult book - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I started reading it but the first couple of pages told me it was going to be a real piece of crap. Nevertheless my point is the same clause is emphasised, here in the guise of vagrancies in Men vs. Women. The best is to let things remain undefined
maintaining a balance where conflict exists to the point of inducing confluence.

The most remarkable alliances have their foundations in the tecton rocks of mutual hatred. But none ever last. In the spirit of constant change and dynamism once the threat is removed attention is turned within, and then when the cracks are magnified under scrutiny the strains on the bonds are too much, the alliances crumble. In this same spirit how long does a unity last -- a unity forcibly garbed around diverse and conflicting personas like a stifling coarse garb choking the very freedom so coveted by an individual? The inherent and subconcious awakening of this fact has lead perhaps to the culture of Moving On. No one fights or holds onto what they
once coveted anymore. The slightest signs of strain, the merest static of interference, the minutest signs of assymetry and people chuck the whole thing in the dumpster and move ahead -- no place for sentimentality (Yes, you are correct in assuming that i have relationships in mind while making this point.). No attachments, no bonds, nothing bereft if left. Which would be wonderful if one were a Jedi Knight in training, but alas the rest of the attitude bears little resemblance to those sagely warriors. The almost ephemeral balance that delicately holds equilibrium and semblance of sanity is too tedious a pursuit for people to devote any time to.

For example lets take what people call love. It cant be unconditional, thats just acceptance unfettered by any conditions. It cant develop gradually over a period of time, thats just a compromise, a mutually symbiotic ambivalent situation devised to provide comfort, convinience or a fluid maintainance of status quo. It is a delicate balance of several things that click and that you happen to like. Any one of your assumptions coming untrue would lead or atleast should lead to you falling out of love because once those anomalies are observed, it figures that this is not what you fell in love with.

While i view other relationships with not so stringent particulars, i still maintain that for their effective and effcient continuation a balance needs to be maintained. But things have become less like classical music and more like rock music...an octave higher or an octave lower which once made a whole world of difference now only induces perhaps the least imperceptible quiver of the eyebrow. People prefer to live safe while claiming to live vicariously. Because the one fact firmly ingrained in their subconcious is this. Things change and the apprehension and the agonisingly nailbiting wait for the other shoe to drop can drain the fun out of even the
present. Thats pessimism for you. And being a hardcore, die hard (optimism wld be never say die, so pessimism is die hard right? ok ok, bad joke.) pessimist thats the way i see it.

The epicentre of a balanced disc..or the fulcrum of a balanced situation is very very delicate. More so because of the dynamism and fluidity of the opposing factors. Hanging on with tenacity and yet knowing when to let go is important. An octave higher and an octave lower may be all the difference between Cacophony and euphony. Dont hold your point till apoplectic delirium sets in but do hold on. Collate the happenings around you, the alluric may be fools gold and what you let go may be the real deal.

Getting Fresh

OK, first off -- Samir, funny isnt as easy as one might think. This sad and sobering fact i realised yesterday when i tried to switch off the torrent of thoughts and emotions ever running in my mind and tried to concentrate on wit. I failed miserably. Down below is my pathetic excuse for a funny article. Apologies my friends.

Heres some word on some looting, duping and decieving Gujarati style. Dunno where Mukesh Ambani gets his tips and inspirations but his latest scam looks like his guru is none other than the demon Modi himself. Another fancy sounding scheme that attracts people and so far people havent even begun to realise they are being duped.

A word of advice to Mr. Mukesh Ambani -- leave the fancy hi-tech stuff to chhotaa bhai. He
carries it off much better than you. I am of course, commenting on the Reliance Fresh scheme.Of course over here the vegetable vendors visit the main market early to ensure that the basic stuff that we need for our daily requirements are not available FRESHLY at the Reliance outlets....(yeah. chalk one up for the underdogs). You pick up a framework trolley (if you can find one). Then u put a basket on top. Then you pick out the veggies and fruits yourself, go to the polythene dispensing machine and put the stuff in - a different bag for each foodstuff. Then you go over to the counter and overpay for everything youve bought. Oh and you also have your regular foodstuffs and chocolates, biscuits, wafers...stuff that you get at retail price at say a big bazaar or whatever. Unfriendly staff and an irritating counter lady reciting useless offers like a five yr. old reciting "The Wreck of Hesperus" to indulgent adults dont add to the charm in anyway whatsoever. Also, whats so FRESH about those precooked, Kitchens of India and MTR vegetable packets which you can get anywhere?

Also dont expect perfect red apples or flawless potatoes and other veggies that youve only probably seen in Hollywood flicks. Or fresh fruits and vegetables kept in a chilled refrigerated environment. Also no handy man standing by to chop and peel for you or offer you tastes or anything of the sort.

Typical Gujarati way to loot you. You let urself be robbed with a smile on your face as you pick out not exceptionally fresh RADDISH (yep, thats how it was spelt) and imported pears (the fact that Indian pears are more delicious and they didnt stock any notwithstanding). So its just your average..and in many ways below average supermarket with just more quirks throw in (which somehow all involve you doing all the work) and some different (not good just different) marketing tactics.

Fun if you are a romantic who dreams about running into chicks at the supermarket or if you want quality imported chickpeas and budget no bar. You might get some exotic varieties there but for the most part you are better off shopping at your local vendor's. After all there is such a thing as the joy of haggling.

Alone in the Dark......You See the Light


Lonliness is an art. The art of being a loner is a very tough one. It may sound cool being a loner and rebel but it is very difficult and very dangerous. Striking the right balance between privacy and complete seclusion can be dicey for certain people. Private moments are needed to collect your thoughts, let of steam and unleash whatever is being withheld inside. Lack of it can lead to irritability and bouts of bad mood which can be directed at anyone near you without reason and discrimination. Everything irritates and small minor flaws become gaping, glaring
defects.

Not everyone can handle being alone and neither should they try. Also some people forced to share company are actually better off alone. If you have a ceaselessly working mind then you can give it a shot. I used to find it a curse, at times i still do. I never can stop thinking, and just give things a rest. Relaxing is somehow out of the question. Even when i am apparently relaxing, there are thoughts running constantly running through my mind, each fighting for
attention. (so can you blame me if for my poor academic performances?). Watching movies, listening to music or reading books doesnt give respite. Instead, they give rise to millions of new thoughts, disjointed, vague, useless and incoherent thoughts hitting my mind by the droves.

Problmes arise when you start craving for company only to realise later that you were better off alone. For me, time among others is a time to observe, imbibe and learn. I constantly guage moods, capture moments and observe quirks, trends, habits and tendencies. Time alone is spent analysing these little figments of observation. These are mostly what i base my writings upon. I can get very irritable when this schedule is disturbed, and it quite often is. I am a moody person, and freaks like me generally are. When i feel like being left alone, i detest intrusions
of privacy. I get irked easily, temper rises quicker than normal (and in my case, even normal is quite mercurial, so you can only imagine my anger in a pressure cooker situation). Also for some stupid reason, i dont casually swear which one has to realise is quite a potent stressbuster.

It is in lonliness that your thoughts dwell. That is also a very dangerous thing. If you are not in control of yourself, and lets face it we are no zen monks or buddhists as to be so masterful, you will vaccilate. We change our minds a thousand different times in the space of a little while. What will be the end decision is anyones guess. We have all probably heard of that professorial anecdote about holding a glass of water long enought to make your arms ache. No work is being done claims the professor but still we feel tired. He then goes on to philosophise using a comparision between this pointless act and letting thoughts dwell long enough in our mind. But i say that it is important to let them dwell. Only when they dwell long enough do we begin to see the negative aspects of things. The darker side is only then visible.
And while most people want to stay positive, smiling chirpy happy go lucky sorts, things dont work that way. Being an optimistic, positive fool is only ignoring things. The bad sides, the countless things that could go wrong, the millions of negative aspects have to be examined and considered.

It is how you handle things from thereon, what paths you choose after realisation dawns upon you that matters. You will have to face tough facts and consequentially make some tough decisions. If you take the easy road inspite of the cold hard facts dawning upon you, then you are just avoiding confrontation. And in you desperation to avoid it, you might end up ruining some other aspect of your life. Bcuz lets face it, only so many things can occupy the surface conciousness that is you mind at a given time.

Forced in the company of your own shadow you will learn to appreciate yourself. And not in the ego inflating, self righteous, pompous sort of way but in a coarse, rugged finer aspects sort of way.

Settle in Love, Dont Fall


Okay, ive had this fight with different friends. All mostly disagree with me, but none of the answers were consistent bar one (Sigmund, this is you). Even so, i disagreed. Question: Can you prevent yourself from falling in love? My Answer: Yes. Ive heard it all from ur just saying that to u say that now, but when it happens you cant stop it. And my question is why not? Why cant you guard yourself from your moment of weakness. It is the most important decisaion of ur life. Why make it in a moment of weakness.
The dating philosophy of the youngsters today (fine fine, im a grandpa), the Gen X leaves me flabbergasted. I will first off declare that for some reason, i am an ultra conservative person. I come from a very liberal background and have had all sorts of freedom and liberties. But still i personally take a very conservative outlook on life. And so the antics of my generation often leave me gaping. They take these things so frivolously. Fall in love, fall out of love, change partners at the drop of a hat. The girls like to string along a number of guys at once, under the pretext of keeping their options open. Thats another thing. As bad as guys are, you can see them from what they are. Girls have this another hidden layer of hitherto undiscovered evilness.
They act as if they are in a buffet line, tasting and testing till theyve found the right dish. They swear by their trial and error method, not even bothering to take pains to look for the right person. Then if things start going wrong, they dont even bother to patch things up. Dump is the four letter word they swear by and move on to the next target. Some actually do give their relationship a chance. Of course, there isnt much of a relationship and the person theyve chosen is a proven stinker but the infatuation level is so high and their attitude so immature that they simply cant let go. And then there are those who know its not going to work between them or know its not a permanent thing and that the person they choose is not going to be the one they end up with and still they date each other, just to "Experience". So, even if you really fall for someone, its a difficult situation. You never know their past and have no idea what sort of flings theyve had, who theyve dated and what theyve done. Which makes things even more difficult for those who opt for or are forced into arranged marriages. To test and gauge everything in an hour is impossible.
Then there are those who are confused and easily impressed. These are the ones who dont know better and mistake crushes and infatuations for the real thing. Or maybe its just that they dont care. Why not spend the rest of your life with someone whom you are physically attracted to. The rest can be sorted out since life is about adjustment and compromise. Its a weird logic. Or maybe its just me thats weird because i say, why compromise?
As for me, i coudldnt bear to be with someone who has had innumerable flings (or actually even a single one, come to think about it). Its not just about being someones first preference but more. Call it ego if u will but thats the way it is. T just sit there and have someone look at you lovingly and then to realise, that shes looked at someone else the same way, or to rest ur head in her lap and lie in a carefree manner only for it to hit you that someone else before you has probably done the same thing.
Its a weird attitude and i feel it. More so because noone else agrees with me. One very good argument put forth by a friend is that this decision, in nature is like any other decision. It has the basic pros and cons common with any other decision taken. And so it cannot be taken with 100% confidence. You meet someone, you like him/her, you give it a try, and if it doesnt work later on, you move on. And if you meet someone, you cant expect them to have not fallen for anyone before yyou. And just because they tried out a relationship with someone else is not reason enough to reject that person, specially if its obvious that the two of you are compatible and clearly gel well. Okay, so he wasnt exactly that coherent or vociferous but that was pretty much the gist of what he wanted to convey. But somehow im still not convinced.
Just once id like to have this conversation who thinks along the lines that i do. But since that is impossible id settle for the next best thing. I would really like to have this conversation with someone who has not once fallen in love, or fallen for soemone. Thus far, my search has been futile. The world is changing. I dont fit in. And the way the world gets, im not so sure i want to fit in. Being rebellious, misfit and a reject is cool neway.